We’ve all been there. We meet a guy and we think he’s perfect. He’s charming, good-looking, and seems to have his life together. But then we find out that he’s got a dark side. He’s emotionally unavailable, damaged, or even abusive. And yet, we can’t help but be drawn to him.
There are many possible explanations for why some women find themselves attracted to “broken” men. It could be that they see something of themselves in these men – maybe they, too, feel broken and think that they can relate to them. Maybe they’re drawn to the challenge of “fixing” these men, or perhaps they simply find them more exciting than more well-adjusted guys.
Here are 5 reasons why you might be attracted to broken men:
1. You’re looking for a challenge.
If you’ve always been the “fixer” in your relationships, then you might be drawn to broken men because you see them as a challenge. You want to be the one who can help them heal their wounds and make them whole again.
2. You’re attracted to their intensity.
There’s something about a broken man that can be very intense and passionate. They might be moody and unpredictable, but that can also make them more exciting than a guy who is always stable and predictable.
3. You see yourself in them.
If you feel like you’re broken, too, then you might be drawn to men who feel the same way. You see a reflection of yourself in them and that can create a strong connection.
4. You want to save them.
Many women find themselves attracted to broken men because they want to save them. They see these men as lost souls who need someone to help them find their way.
5. You’re attracted to the drama.
Let’s face it, broken men can be pretty dramatic. They might be constantly going through some sort of crisis or they might be dealing with a lot of emotional baggage. And for some women, the drama is just too appealing to resist.
Do any of these reasons sound familiar to you? If so, then you might want to ask yourself why you’re attracted to broken men. Whatever the reason, it’s important to be honest with yourself about why you’re attracted to these types of men. If you’re not careful, you could end up in a destructive and even abusive relationship. Only when you answer this question, then can you start to work on changing this pattern.
Peace Nero is a writer and blogger who loves to explore different topics of self-development. She shares her personal experiences in order to help people discover their true purpose in life.