Shibari is the ancient Japanese art of bondage tying. It gets its origins from Hojo-jutsu, a martial art used to restrain Japanese prisoners. It is often confused with Kinbaku. The difference between Shibari and Kinbaku is that while Shibari is the art of bondage tying, Kinbaku is the use of this art in a sexual direction. Today, BDSM practices have been known to take their roots in Kinbaku.
Shibari evolved into Kinbaku in the late 19th century, however, in today’s western world, it is mostly known as Shibari. Shibari involves the use of ropes to tread lines between pain and pleasure, using knots to heighten pleasure and stimulate erogenous zones
Shibari also takes a lot of time to master the skill but eventually, it leads to a sense of trust between the tied partner and their significant other. It can also lead to a trance-like experience for the tied up partner.
More recently, Shibari was used on Netflix original series, Too Hot To Handle to help them build trust with one another.
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Want to Practice Shibari?
To practice Shibari, you need to get some good ropes. The long, soft ropes with a twisted finish are perfect for the practice of Shibari. Also, Shibari is mostly scripted and planned out, so you and your partner need to discuss what you plan to do or not do.
Also, misconceptions abound about Shibari. One most common misconception is that it is painful. Shibari is not meant to be painful. It may get a little uncomfortable, but it shouldn’t exactly hurt.
To get started, you may want to read up on some best practices. The book, Two Knotty Boys: Showing You the Ropes can help you get started. This is important because injury and even death can occur when using restraints with inexperience. It is therefore important that you learn from a qualified instructor first. Other books you can use in learning include: “Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage” by Shin Nawakiri or “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé”.
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