We Asked Women What Makes A Good Kiss and Here’s What We Got

Kissing is something that plays a major role in intimacy. That is why a whole part of church wedding ceremonies are dedicated to encouraging a kiss between both partners.

Growing up on Disney movies will certainly make you wait eagerly for that moment when you can have your first kiss and when you can also enjoy it.

There are however tips that aid a kiss being really good and memorable.

Urban Woman spoke to ten women and asked them what makes a good kiss and some of their most memorable kissing experiences.

Here are their responses:

Ebun

I think what makes a kiss enjoyable is knowing the partner is into it too. It could show from heavy breathing, moaning etc etc. If he’s doing it out of obligation <<<<<<<<. Also very few Nigerian men know how to kiss.

Gabriella

What makes a good kiss for me is three things: fresh breath, good breath control, and those oh-so-sexy little moans.

I don’t even care about skills like that, because I’m a good kisser and I’m happy to take the lead. My most memorable kissing experience was the first girl I kissed. Ya Allah, women can kiss and I think we’re just more generous with expressing the pleasure we feel. It’s such a turn on. 🙏🏼

My first kiss sucked and most times I refuse to acknowledge it as my first. It was terrible. I didn’t see it coming; this young neighbour that had a crush on me grabbed me in a bush path that leads to our compound and just chewed out my lower lip. His breath smelled like onions and spit was all over my lips and jaw. I have never brushed as hard as I did afterwards.

I think kissing is best between people who have feelings for each other. It doesn’t even have to lead anywhere. You can just relax into nibbling on each other’s lips and running your hands over each other. For more passionate kisses, I’d say, let one person lead and the other follow. As much as we love a full bottom lip, pay attention to upper lips too. I also recommend a little biting here and there and then flicking your tongue across it to make the pain go away 🙈

Kimberlyn

Great breath control. Good breath. Period

Paying attention to both the upper and lower lip..(because some men like to kiss just one part..smh). I like the little giggling and nibbling that happens in between as well.

Closed eyes. Do NOT stare at me eyeball to eyeball pls🤚🏻

Caresses…I don’t like kissing without touching.🤭

Letting your lips stray…neck, ears, cheeks even shoulder kisses and then back to the lips again.

Also, this goes without saying but some men clearly didn’t get the memo; DO NOT POUR SPIT INTO MY MOUTH.

Thanks 🫶🏻

Fehintola*

I didn’t like my first kiss. I didn’t expect it. I didn’t enjoy it. It was just “ewwy” because it was forced on my lips.

Whoever wants to kiss should be asking first🥹

Elohor

Here’s where I shine🤭

I’ve had a couple of great kisses. Kissing an ashawo man is top tier, to begin with. All the moaning and leaning in, the feeling you get from his touching you all over and basically trying to get under your skin.

Glory

My first kiss was such a memory I want to forget. He kept just doing his tongue like a lizard in my mouth  and I didnt want to.

My second jeezz I looked forward to it but he didn’t do a good job…infact my lip was swollen. So embarrassing as I had to move with a swollen lip. I remember my younger sis asking what’s wrong with your lip? Gosh! But when I met my current boyfriend, it was so good, like he started slow, then kissed my forehead and shoulders. He just was not in a hurry and knew what it was he was doing. He’s the reason why forehead kisses are my jam. Infact I refuse to acknowledge those two previous kisses cos when I remember  I go like wtf was that???

ShyAngel*

My first wasn’t a memorable one cause my first bf was not a fan of kissing but deep down I knew I love to kiss and I wanted so bad to kiss and experience the way I see couples kiss in foreign movies. I was age 17.

It took me over ten years to experience kissing just way I want and imagine it to be. I consider kissing to be a passionate and intimate affair and I’ve had the memorable kissing experiences with my current lover. We could go on and on kissing each other lips out, we no dey tire. 🫣

I go to know he was in love through his kiss. He was to travel and we wouldn’t see for a while, we hanged out to spend time together outdoors and afterwards we kissed inside his car at the parking lot. The kiss literally turned my body into jelly, I couldn’t feel my body for some minutes. It was the most passionate kiss ever and the memories of that kiss kept me company till he returned.

Soft and full lips are my fav kind of lips to kiss, it just makes the experience easier and better, IMO. And personally, I think kissing like every other thing is a skill, it can be learnt and imagination helps a lot when it comes to sexual intimacy.

Josephine

Personally I feel like kissing is an art. It should never be done out of obligation. There are so many nerve ending in your lips so it should be explored. First, technique has to be very good. 

Like lips first then work towards tongue and not too much just enough to tease the lips. There should be a wanting to kissing. Like whomever is kissing or being kissed there should feel like a wanting to it all. Almost bordering on a need.

My first kiss was actually quite horrible; he stuck his tongue in my mouth the second our lips touched. It was like he was illiciting for gag reflex. 

I was a novice but I was damn sure it was not supposed to be like that. I also think there’s just kissing and there’s kissing that leads somewhere. 

The rate, urgency and everything picks up. There should be some tenderness too it to and a lot of well placed hand movement.

Folasade

I think kissing can be better when both parties take care of their oral health. When the two parties are in love or insanely attracted to each other too, that helps.

I really can’t handle kissing someone I don’t love.

I don’t know why but kissing is more intimate than sex for me.

Anuoluwamipo Idowu

I’ve always been a passionate person and with all the reviews I’ve seen I believe I’m lucky.

My first kiss was at the university at night. I can still remember the spot under the  tree where our lips collided. The breeze was cool and it all felt magical. He was gentle, he probably knew this was my first and made it easy or he was just a good kisser. 

After my first I continued to experience other beautiful moments, I’ve had a particular one that left my legs shaking, it was that good. 

I think the only thing that makes my kisses memorable are the people I share my lips with.  I realise that they are only people I have come to feel something deep for so my body is ready to have a taste of them. 

With such experience…It’s funny I haven’t shared a kiss with my current partner. Finding a new life in Christ we are both delaying gratification, kisses inclusive, till we say, I do. 

There are days when I imagine what he’ll taste like, my heart and body longing to experience warmth. So it is impossible to have anything short of amazing from someone who you are in love with.

*Name changed to protect identity