Gaslighting has infiltrated every corner of society—from social media to self-help podcasts. However, the true meaning behind this psychological manipulation tactic has been lost in a game of telephone, according to psychologist Dr. Deborah Vinall, Psy.D., LMFT. In an interview with Recovered.org, Dr. Vinall, who authored “Gaslighting: A Step-by-Step Recovery Guide,” notes that while awareness of gaslighting has increased, it is often misunderstood as simply lying or contradicting others, leading to accusations of gaslighting being used to shut down discussions and avoid confrontation.
Gaslighting, as Dr. Vinall explains, is a pattern of manipulation and control using bold lies to make individuals doubt their own senses, intuition, and memory. It is a form of psychological abuse that can have devastating consequences, especially when perpetrated by “high-level” gaslighters who are skilled manipulators. These individuals can leave you constantly unsure of what is true, leading to emotional and mental suffering.
Dr. Vinall shares nine tactics that high-level gaslighters use, which are often missed by most people. These tactics include shrinking your inner circle, employing victim or hero narratives, using a firehose of lies, making harmful comparisons, undermining your accomplishments, putting you down in front of others, refusing accountability, splitting relationships, and engaging in transactional behavior.
Recognizing these tactics is crucial for protecting yourself from the damaging effects of gaslighting. Dr. Vinall advises understanding the cycle of gaslighting, keeping detailed records of interactions, and setting boundaries to maintain emotional well-being. Building awareness and seeking support from a therapist can help individuals break free from the grip of a high-level gaslighter.
In conclusion, the insidious nature of gaslighting can erode self-confidence, create chronic stress, and isolate individuals from their support systems. By arming yourself with knowledge and taking steps to protect your mental and emotional health, you can confront high-level gaslighters and regain control of your own truth.
Peace Nero is a writer and blogger who loves to explore different topics of self-development. She shares her personal experiences in order to help people discover their true purpose in life.