Jennifer Lopez has shared intimate details about her personal journey in the latest issue of Interview magazine.
In an honest conversation with comedian Nikki Glaser, Lopez discussed her highly anticipated film, Unstoppable, and reflected on the valuable lessons she learned while navigating a challenging year.
She said, “It’s a lifelong process, I think that’s what I love about life: that there’s no arrival point. There’s only getting better and growing if you want to. It’s either growing or dying, and I don’t want to do the dying part.”
“And yeah, there’s times when I thought I figured it out, and then life goes, ‘Let’s send you another thing and see if you fall for it. Let’s see if you really have learned that lesson.’ And I hadn’t,” she continued.
Concerning her love life, Lopez said, “Now I’m excited, when you say you’re just going to be on your own. Yes, I’m not looking for anybody, because everything that I’ve done over the past 25, 30 years, being in these different challenging situations, what can I f—ing do when it’s just me flying on my own … what if I’m just free?”
Recall Lopez had filed for divorce from Ben Affleck on Aug. 20, this year.
Lopez also spoke about learning how to “be good on your own.”
The singer admitted to Glaser that despite her self-awareness, she still has more work to do. “The work is figuring yourself out. It’s looking back at the feelings underneath and the belief systems that we have about ourselves that make us make certain choices and create certain patterns in our life.”
“And so, when you get to a point where you think that you’ve learned the lessons, and then it blows up in your face again, you realize, ‘Okay, I haven’t, so what is it that I need to look at right now?’ I would say, never stop looking inward, because it’s so easy to blame everybody else,” Lopez continued.
She added, “You have to be good on your own. I thought I learned that, but I didn’t. And then, this summer, I had to be like, ‘I need to go off and be on my own. I want to prove to myself that I can do that.”
Lopez further revealed that it was hard to be alone, adding that it felt scary and unfamiliar.
“It feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary, It feels sad. It feels desperate. But when you sit in those feelings and go, ‘These things are not going to kill me,’ it’s like actually, I am capable of joy and happiness all by myself… Being in a relationship doesn’t define me.”
Lopez and her ex husband have been on good terms since the divorce. The duo reunited on Sept 14 for a family lunch with their children.
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