Several things inspire the departure of individuals from friendships, jobs and relationships. For some people, they leave friendships due to a lack of thoughtfulness in things like birthdays. For some others, jobs are left due to them not feeling impactful in the workspace.
For women and relationships, multiple things can make women decide to end a relationship and leave. It is important that we document the stories of women leaving relationships so that more women know that they can leave what no longer serves them.
In our latest article, Urban Woman Magazine asked some women to share what made them leave a relationship.
Read their responses below.
OY
I left my four year relationship last year December.
Prior to that, I already saw some lapses especially in communication, reached out to this guy and he said I was the one overthinking it and that he’s been busy with work and stuff. I said okay.
What broke the camel’s back for me was when I travelled home for Christmas, prior to that I had already told him I’ll be travelling, not a call or anything from him. I took a night bus and was expected to be in PH by the next morning, but somehow I ended up spending almost three days on the road. Everyone was worried and concerned. I got calls from my boss, my friends and family but guess who didn’t call, him. He only reached out on the second day when I was in the middle of nowhere and he sent an “HI” lollll.
That was all I needed to know, there and then in the middle of nowhere I broke up with him because I started to think, if something had happened to me, how long would it take him to know?
What if I had died? What if I was kidnapped is this how he was going to send me a HI lmao.
I dusted my legs and left.
Never again ✋
EV
My ex lived five minutes away from me. Among his other atrocities, he started making excuses not to come over. One day, I fell ill suddenly and had to be admitted to a hospital close to my apartment.
At the hospital, I debated whether he’d show up or not if I told him I was on admission. That was how my mind was made up. I knew he couldn’t be the one for me if that was the internal debate I was having. Funny enough, he came and spent the entire three days with me there o, even working from the hospital room. But my mind had been made up.
EB
In University, I was in a stressful relationship with this man. I knew he was terrible for me, but I was young and it was my first relationship and he had me convinced that there was no way I could function without him. He also threatened to send my nudes to my father if I ever ended it. So, I was terrified and had made up my mind to just marry him.
Anyway, one day I am scrolling on Instagram and see a post that says “If you won’t be happy to have a son or daughter like them, don’t marry them” and it was like something reconfigured in my brain, in that moment I decided to end it and I did so before the end of that day.
Till date, I remember standing in school, in the afternoon, reading that post, imagining a son like him and being so terrified at the thought of raising a man who behaved like that man. I ended it and while I was scared, I kept telling myself “my son will be a wonderful man to his wife, that’s all that matters!”.
AD
How can I confide in someone that I lost my job paying me about a million at that time…Of course I was depressed, my vision was blurry in the following months, it was hard to get by. I lost weight.
My so-called partner never helped to even cater for something. I realized I was dating my enemy. He never said take even 30k. Nope he watched me suffer. We have been going out for two years. I blocked weyrey.
Funny how I spent 300k on my baecation and he used it against me for over a year that I was supposed to give him the money.
This is someone earning well o. Long story short, he liked to see me suffer and what was the point? Also when having arguments he liked to slip insults like “Are you stupid?”. Mind you, when having a civil conversation. I’m like can we have a civil argument without insults?
Another one: I love getting gifts and giving in return. I would get him stuff from when he has a fever to just random gifts like a book and so.
This ape had the guts to tell me I have never given him anything. I didn’t argue. That was the last straw; get out.
Honestly when I ask why I went out with him…I guess I was ignorant with all the flags because I was working and handling my brand so he was just for sex. I am a mumu and loyal to earth. I think losing my job opened my eyes more. An irony because he was making marriage plans for me. When he enforced the relationship, it wasn’t going to lead to marriage in the beginning.
I agreed. I had a future ahead of me. So he was just emotionally immature. Can you believe he told me that I really impacted his attitude that he took a course for behaving 😄😄😄😄.
As in a paid class. I just shook my head because I didn’t see any change.
Angel Nduka-Nwosu is a writer, journalist and editor. She moonlights occasionally as a podcaster on As Angel Was Sayin’. Catch her on all socials @asangelwassayin.